time to be a hater...

i hate guys. don't get me wrong..i do love my boyfriend. he's really great. he's turned out to be something completely opposite of what i imagined him as. but it's the love game, perhaps, that i don't like. for instance, when i look at my friends dealing with guys now. why do guys play so much? honestly, i've become wiser enough to know that guys really aren't stupid when it comes to girls. i mean there have been a countless number of times where i have complained about guys being stupid and not knowing about how much i like them blah blah blah. i think we've all heard this or said this before, but as i get older, what i notice is that guys really aren't dumb and oblivious. sure, there are exceptions, but for the majority guys really do know. guys can decipher the way a girl is acting as, "oh yeah, she's got something for me," and play accordingly. i not only came up with this conclusion on my quest for my current boyfriend (he also told me guys do this too), but i just notice it more and more now that i am not single and i see my friends playing this love game. i feel like girls know this information, yet they let themselves get fooled too much all because we want that feeling of love. there are plenty more other girls i know where the guys are playing around with them either to be nice or just to get some easy ass and the girls keep playing their game. no longer do i think guys are dumb when it comes to the opposite sex, but us, girls, are the dumb ones. we, like idiots, let these guys toy with our hearts and emotions, fill us up with dumb butterflies that shouldn't be in our stomachs, maybe fall into the occasional hook up here and there thinking it's on the right way to love, and then when the guy disappears or stops calling we're the ones left stumped crying to our other girlfriends about what a jackass he is. i think we set ourselves up for it, honestly. for instance the point of he's just not that into you is that...he's just not that into you. it's true, if he really wanted you to be his girl, you would be his. yet, we, as the friend supporter can't tell our friends straight up what we see. we have no objectivity in the situation because the guy hurt OUR friend. we encourage our girls saying it's okay when it really isn't. we say, "oh, he doesn't know what he's missing," and when it could be true, we're just so stuck on what we don't have that we can't even give the chance for someone that should have us to have it. does this make sense or am i rambling? sigh...i just don't want to do hw and then i started thinking about this and now i have no point of where it's going anymore. go figure. bottom line is...guys aren't dumb. girls, we have to play smarter because you have to admit this game isn't going anywhere. why, when we can conquer every other obstacle that has gotten in the way of a female, are we still letting guys run the show? why are we getting so foolish in love too quickly when, first, we have a long life ahead of us (at least people that around my age), and second, most guys that we encounter aren't looking for a life long partner yet. i feel like girls my age are trying too hard to get into that married lifestyle, and i'm not just talking about living with your significant other. it's the comfort factor of being in a married relationship that girls are seeking too fast. we're expecting boys to want that feeling of a secure, married life, and if you haven't noticed, guys are not looking for that right now. i think we've gotten it into our heads that we have to settle down now. so girls, just lay back and don't take your relationships, or lack therof (whether you know it or not), seriously. most of the time, the guy really is looking for some pussy. so i think we, as girls, should keep the married mentality aside and have fun. you really wanna settle down with someone now and spend the next 50+ years with them? don't get me wrong, if you're at that stage, then, all the more power to you, there are exceptions to everything (the movie/book he's just not that into you even explains this), i'm just trying to keep it real.